PORN ADDICTION RECOVERY RESOURCES

I. GENERAL OVERVIEW AND SUMMARY

I researched on this topic for around a decade from around 2009 to 2019 especially to help the youth. Also, there was at that time an emerging global interest on the Theology of the Body and how it is applied to daily life.

The key insights from my research can be found in a one-pager that is found in this blog entitled Purity and the Best Remedy for Lust (2015).

Here are its key ideas:

1. Beg for help from God and be centered on the passion of Christ

1. Basis: teachings of the saints; also the first steps in the popular and effective 12-step addiction program

2. Be deeply immersed in truths of the Theology of the body

1. Have clear and deep reasons for chastity, Know the truth so it sets you free

2. Basis: based on insight of John Paul II and St. Thomas Aquinas; and also of the effective Allen Carr program to stop smoking (see new application in II.3.a below)

3. Strengthen motivation with list of motives and review when tempted

1. Basis: this a corollary of the point above. This is a key insight of Porn Trap, one of the best books on porn addiction (see II.3b below). This is also a key point of Fr. Julio Dieguez in his book, He knows Not How; and the effective mentoring technique called Motivational Interviewing

4. Other key points

1. Be sincere and go to confession when there are early sparks of passion

2. See the great evil of this sin, scorn it and flee: Avoid unclean thoughts completely

3. Identify triggers and avoid them

4. Read more about theology of the body and spread it.

II. RESOURCES

1. Prayer Resources

1. Compilation of Prayers for Purity (2015). Since prayer is the number one factor, here are the best prayers on the internet about purity that I have compiled.  

2. Prayer for Purity (2009). Since the top factors are prayer and Theology of the Body, here is a prayer I composed that combines both. 

2. Application of Theology of the Body

1. Achieving Chastity in an Unchaste World. This is the best booklet that I found on applied Theology Body. The author, Fr. Morrow, says that it has helped people that he coaches and is recommended by Catholic scholars.

2. Arriving at the Peace of Chastity: a powerpoint presentation (2010). I also created a powerpoint presentation which can be used for talks. These are found in the web: Arriving at the Peace of Chastity, Part I; Arriving at the Peace of Chastity, Part II

3. Giving Real Love to Your Child. Since parents are the most influential teachers, this is a one-pager I wrote on how parents can educate their children in human sexuality, based on the Vatican’s Truth and Meaning of Human Sexuality: Guidelines for Education within the Family, found here.

3. Books and websites

1. The Easy Peasy Method for Quitting Porn. New application of Allen Carr’s addiction recovery system (See I.2.b above): Free book and program here.

2. Porn Trap. Book that was called groundbreaking and the best book for this in 2009. 

     

St. Josemaria's Shortcut: Bl Alvaro's Foreword to St. Josemaria's Way of the Cross

One of the most important writings, I would dare say, of Bl. Alvaro del Portillo, is the foreword he wrote for St. Josemaria's Way of the Cross. Read it, even just the first paragraph, and you will find out why. I have not found this in any part of the internet, that is why I am posting it here.  

 

"Enter into the wounds of Christ Crucified".

 

When Monsignor Josemaria Escriva de Balaguer proposed this way, to those who asked him for advice on how to deepen their interior life, he was doing no more than pass on his own experience, pointing out the short cut he had been using throughout his life, and which led him to the highest peaks of spiritual life. His love for Jesus was always something real, tangible and strong; it was tender, filial and very moving.

 

The Founder of Opus Dei used to say, with such encouraging persuasiveness, that being a Christian comes down to "following Christ: that is the secret". And he would add: "We must accompany him so closely that we come to live with Him, like the first Twelve did; so closely, that we become identified with Him".

 

That is why he advised people to meditate constantly on the passages of the Gospel, and those who have had the good fortune to hear him comment on some of the scenes of the life of Christ, have felt themselves reliving those scenes, actually there, and they have learned to take part in those passages "as just one more person there".

 

Among all the Gospel narratives, Msgr. Escriva used to dwell with special attention and love on those which tell of the Death and Resurrection of Jesus. There, among many other considerations he made, he would contemplate the Sacred Humanity of Christ, who —in his great yearning to come close to each one of us— reveals himself to us with all the weakness of men and with all the magnificence of God. "That is why", he would say, "I have always advised people to read books on Our Lord's Passion. Such works, full of true piety, bring to our minds the Son of God, a Man like ourselves and also true God, who in his flesh loves and suffers to redeem the world".

 

Truly, a Christian matures and becomes strong beside the Cross, where he also finds Mary, his Mother.

 

The Founder of Opus Dei prepared this Way of the Cross as a result of his contemplation on the scenes of Calvary. His desire was that it should serve to help people meditate on the Passion of Jesus, but he never wished to impose it on anyone as a text with which to carry out this very Christian devotion. This was because of his great love for the freedom of people's consciences and the deep respect he felt towards the interior life of each soul, so much so that he never obliged even his own children to adopt specific ways of piety, except, naturally, those which form an essential part of the spirituality that God has wanted for Opus Dei.

 

This new posthumous work of Msgr. Escriva, like the previous ones, has been prepared to help people to pray and, with the grace of God, to grow in a spirit of reparation —of "love-sorrow"— and of gratitude to Our Lord, who has rescued us at the cost of his Blood.

 

For this same reason, there have been included, as points for meditation, some words of Msgr. Escriva, taken from his preaching and his conversation which reflected his zeal to speak only about God and about nothing but God.

 

The Way of the Cross is not a sad devotion. Msgr. Escriva taught many times that Christian joy has its roots in the shape of a cross. If the Passion of Christ is a way of pain, it is also a path of hope leading to certain victory. As he explained in one of his homilies: "You should realize that God wants you to be glad and that, if you do all you can, you will be happy, very, very happy, although you will never for a moment be without the Cross. But that Cross is no longer a gallows. It is the throne from which Christ reigns. And at his side, his Mother, our Mother too. The Blessed Virgin will obtain for you the strength that you need to walk decisively in the footsteps of her Son".

 

Alvaro del Portillo

 

Rome, 14 September 1980,

Feast of the Exaltation of the Holy Cross